Most people spend their days reacting: To emails. To meetings. To other people’s demands.
It’s easy to drift like this for weeks, months—even years—without ever stopping to ask what you really want.
But there are two questions that cut through the noise. Questions that can change how you spend your time, starting right now: Who are you, and what do you want?
When you’re clear on your answers, everything shifts. Decisions get easier. Distractions fall away. You stop chasing things that don’t matter and start focusing on what does.
The challenge is that most of us never pause long enough to ask. Or we’ve been taught to answer with what we think we should want—what our families, friends, or culture expect from us—instead of what we truly value.
Values are the foundation. They are your filter for how you spend your time. If you say you value health but never make it to the gym, there’s a disconnect. If you say you value family but work 80 hours a week, there’s a disconnect.
A simple exercise can be revealing: Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side, write your top five values. On the other, write the top five ways you spend your time. Do they match? Or are you living in a gap between what matters and what you actually do?
When those two lists align, your time feels meaningful. You feel on purpose. And you have a built-in compass for saying yes to the right things and no to the rest.
Clarity is powerful. Without it, we get swept along in a current of other people’s priorities. With it, we can choose our own course.
So ask yourself—today, right now—Who am I? What do I want? And then, start living in a way that reflects those answers.
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